With graduation rapidly approaching, and myself still not even signed up to take NCLEX or to get my license, I’m feeling the crunch to simply focus on the next two weeks academically. I am thankful that my family has been chill about not telling me that I need to hurry up and figure wedding plans out. Honestly, I know things will come together as I want them to for a large extent, and the rest will work itself out just fine.
However, at the same time I do feel a desire to start picking up my blogging again and looking through my wedding-related bookmarks. After all, we do have a deposit down on our venue so the date is set: September 14th, 2012. It’s a Friday, which ended up being $1500 cheaper, so I told A’s mom to seriously not worry about the date and do it then. I guess the plan right now is to have our ceremony at their house and then the reception at the winery. Which will work out well because our photographer probably will be more than willing to go down the road and take pictures at the winery as well.
I guess I can go update a few things on my to-do :P
Similar to magnetic poetry, this little board can hold words for creating prose. I plan on using it as one of our fun attractions at our vineyard reception.
First of all, please bear with me as this is my first attempt at a tutorial. I am the type of crafty person that chooses the materials that speak to me and run with it, so many of my creations are on the fly without much structure. If things seem like they weren’t planned, they likely were not! A trip to Wal-Mart with my credit card resulted in bargain craft shopping and this project.
STEP ONE: Form your wire hanger. This will be what holds up your cork board. I coiled mine into a twisted pattern. If you make it a little tight, that’s okay, because you can pull it apart and make it looser later on.
You can use a push pin to create a hole for the wire near the top of the cork board. Make sure you give yourself enough room for the wire to hold. If you put it too close to the edge, the wire can tear through the cork board.
After you put the wire through the cork, pull through so there is enough slack to wrap it around and secure. Make sure the excess wire slack is pointing inward to prevent injury (can also cut or round off).
STEP TWO: Apply decorative pattern from card stock. I chose this piece of card stock for my design because I wanted a semi-sophisticated polka dot pattern. However, you can choose any shape you like.
Cut out as many shapes as you wish to use and arrange to test out your spacing. I wanted 5 rows, and for me it worked out to be 18 circles that I had to cut out. You want to leave room between the shapes so that you are able to place pieces of felt. Glue your shapes to the cork board.
I did this because I was going for a particular look and wanted the cork board to be visible. You could also alter the look of your poem board by applying the sticky back felt/gluing plain felt to the cork board before placing your shape design. Either way is fine. (If you choose to place the felt before the shapes, you can skip step three.)
STEP THREE: Add felt pieces. The felt pieces are what will allow the words to “stick” to the cork board for the guests to create their own poetry. I chose white and as mentioned above, I had self-adhesive felt which made this part of the task much easier.
I cut out long thin strips of the felt that would comfortably fit between my circles while still showing the cork. They’re not perfectly even, and that’s ok!
STEP FOUR: Decorate and make header. This part could have been sped up for me if I had a glue gun. While I generally don’t like using glue guns on paper and the like, it is good for using on sequins, like the butterflies I used. It was a bit of a pain using white craft glue.
The header itself was made from felt on the bottom, then white card stock on top of colored card stock (all glued together). I left the backing on the sticky felt for this part and secured it with push pins so that the header was still able to be moved around/removed for other purposes.
STEP FIVE: Make word bank. Take a section of felt and cut it to desired size. I made mine the same width but shorter length than my cork board. Use wire and same technique in STEP ONE to attach felt to bottom of the cork board. I found that using a push pin to create a hole and leaving the sticky backing helped me to thread the wire through the felt.
Remove the sticky backing from the felt and place card stock cut to size on back.
Trim off extra edges.
STEP SIX: Make words. The words were simple to make. I wrote the words in by hand in permanent marker on white card stock, then glued on top of colored card stock.
Using the strip with stiff backing (not the fuzzy backing) from the velcro strips kit, place one strip on each word. Now they’ll easily hang out in the felt word bank.
The final result is fun. My fiance stopped by the poem creator board this morning and looked at it for a good five minutes. He found it to be really intriguing and wanted me to make more words.
Bonus: the cost is fairly low. The cork board was around $6 for 4 pieces, so $1.50 per piece. Packs of card stock are $5 for 50 pages, and I used 3 pages, so $0.30. Velcro strips can be pricey, but I got 15 for around $3 (you don’t need industrial strength). Wire, stickers, and butterfly decorations I found on Wal-Mart clearance for around $2 each.
Grand total is about $12-15 (for crafty people who already have supplies and won’t be out the extra money). If you bought everything just to use it for this project, it could run you closer to $20.
Well, after my epically long post about getting married about A’s parents’ house, it’s possible that the plan has changed again. It went from a ceremony and reception there, to maybe just a ceremony there, to maybe the ceremony and reception being at the vineyard instead. The good news is that I’m fine with that, really. I originally wanted a vineyard wedding to begin with, so I’m actually heading more in the direction of what I originally wanted. I really love A’s parents’ house and the landscape surrounding it though, and I think it would be a great setting for either engagement pictures or pre-ceremony bridal party shots.
I’ve sent them an email for now to see if they have a generic brochure or a list of rates for services, but I plan on calling and making an appointment to see them and meet in person at some point soon.
So, after finding out that my roommate from college and one of my cousins is getting married at the venue I was considering last year, I started thinking about how badly I didn’t want to get married there anymore. I had originally planned for an outdoor wedding, but everywhere I turned the possibilities were pigeonholed into two types: “classy” picnic or overpriced vineyard. I really loved the idea of getting married in a vineyard, but it’s way outside of my budget based on many things. I read too many bad reviews of local vineyards to make me want to make an effort to work with them.
Cue the idea being thrown around about having the wedding ceremony and reception at my FMIL’s house. Her and Andrew’s father own a good portion of land around their house, including a deck and garden area. They also bought the field on the left side of the house that separates them from a growing subdivision, and it would make a perfect area for parking. The land is relatively flat already and wouldn’t need any work for those purposes. Plus the backdrop is just beautiful and I really think the trees would start changing and the flowers would be pretty by September. Right now I’m working with red, yellow, black, and turquoise I believe for my colors. Andrew discussed the idea of planting sunflowers with them, which made me so excited!
But a couple of days ago I started looking up tent prices because, if nothing else, we HAVE to have a tent. A dance floor, fine china, and silverware may go by the wayside if the budget doesn’t allow it, but a tent is a necessity. And my heart kind of dropped at the prices because it seemed so expensive. I mean, our venue costs for the ceremony and reception was going to be less than the cost of this tent at $1000. And I’m trying to do things wayyyy on the cheap, so anything over $500 I take another look at closely. When my fiance came home, I told him about the price and expressed worry at everything costing more even though we’re having it on their property and aren’t paying to rent it. He brushed off all of my concerns and said he wanted to really make it work, and that we’d ask around and negotiate and make sacrifices where necessary. It really is where I’d like to get married and it has a lot of good elements to it, so I think him saying that really gave me the push I needed to start figuring things out.
So, I started wrapping my head around planning this wedding at their house and made out a budget based on estimates for 150 guests. I haven’t finalized a guest list, and won’t know the rough estimate through RSVPs for awhile, but I’m guessing about 75-100 of that will come, especially with it being out in Lawrenceburg, and it will make for it being a more intimate event (what I want). So with 150 guests, and all of the little expenses accounted for, and estimating high, I came out with a budget of $10,797.
Honestly I almost barfed. I know that his parents are going to help us out, and I’m sure that my mom will actually help pay for *something* (I’m hoping to sell her on the idea of paying for my rehearsal dinner, which I want to have at Bd’s Mongolian Grill and for 30 people shouldn’t exceed $500), and my dad I know wants to help financially…but $11k is so much more than I want to be spending. I feel like I’m not even doing anything crazy extravagant and yet I’m still spending a shitload of money. However, I also feel better about the fact that my expenses seem reasonable, and with high estimates, they shouldn’t be too hard to execute.
It also begs the question - if we’re estimating $11k on wedding costs, what’s left for a honeymoon? Here’s to hoping the guest list estimate of 150 is way off …although I think I would be willing to pay the money if people really showed up!
So in case any visitors to my blog never check the right hand side, let me make you aware of the lovely link I have over there that keeps my partially sane. It’s know as the “Wedding To-Do!” and it is my extremely brief to-do list related to wedding planning. I was able to finally get some things started on the list. Refer to bolded/italicized items for things that I’ve made progress on. Whenever they are done (omg, I just realized these won’t be done for a really long time), they will be crossed out like so.
I’ve started getting a little out of hand with looking at shopping things related to the wedding, but here are some general cute things that have caught my eye recently:
Shoes from ModCloth. Very cute and whimsical, and I want something like this if I go with a shorter dress. They also are within my blue and red color patterns.
Adorable purse that is similar in style to the shoes above. More Modcloth love.
Cherry heels from Modcloth. I like the design of the heel especially, and the colors fit. There is also a really interesting bottom to these heels if you click the link to look.
And now, although I definitely want heels for the ceremony, are a pair of flats from Modcloth. I loveeee the little balls on top. I’m thinking of wearing flats at the reception just so I can dance…compromise shoe? Only $45
I’d really like to use some of my favorite songs that were either too whacky for ceremonial purposes or lacked the significance for a dance. My fiance and I LOVE music, and I would call us music enthusiasts to some degree because we can lay around listening, critiquing, and singing along for hours. So I was thinking about how much I love quotes, and how many of those favorite quotes came from song. Therefore, I came up with the idea to use certain songs as a reference for decorating different tables. The idea would be taking lyrics out of these songs to create a theme, and decorating accordingly. The lyrics would be displayed on the table so even if the guests hadn’t heard of the song, they would “get it” and this is how we could also differentiate between tables without numbering them.
"Ramble On" by Led Zeppelin - "Twas in the darkest depths of mordor/I met a girl so fair/But gollum, and the evil one crept up/And slipped away with her." I like this lyric segment because I’m quite the pale girl. LOTR theme completely! Someone I am friends with will appreciate it.
"Slide" by the Goo Goo Dolls - "And I’ll do anything you ever/Dreamed to be complete/Little pieces of the nothing that fall." Puzzle pieces table. I actually thought it would be cool to blow up a picture of the two of us and turn it into puzzle pieces that the guests at that table could put together if they chose.
"Love Song" by 311 - "However far away, I will always love you/However long I stay, I will always love you/Whatever words I say, I will always love you I will always love you.” Scrabble letters and serial killer style magazine cutouts spelling out “love you” and various other alphabet funsies. Another idea for this is to incorporate “love you” in different languages.
"Crystal Baller" by Third Eye Blind - "Can we talk about tomorrow and the promise that it brings/I want to be your Crystal Baller, I want to show you everything." Tarot cards, a crystal ball centerpiece, and fortune cookies. Who wouldn’t love that?
Bridesmaids with sunflower in hair as accessory. Bridesmaid bouquets as a single sunflower + other flower I choose in arrangement of bridal bouquet. Royal purple dresses, they get to pick style but color must match.
Bridal bouquet will be sunflowers with other flower accessories. I like this look:
But I think I want one other flower in the arrangement, I just like the way the baby’s breath looks with it and the greenery.
I found this recipe while searching around on the internet for desserts. I really enjoyed them, and they were a breeze to make. I’m actually seriously considering making these in lieu of a wedding cake - very yummy.
I absolutely love the idea of a vineyard wedding. First of all, I love wine, and second, I love the deep reds of wine and royal purples of grapes intermingled with the greenery. It seems to be a perfect combination for my ideas for having an outdoor ceremony with an indoor reception. The first vineyard I came across with reasonable wedding accommodations for my guest size was Equus Run Vineyards.
Positives of this site:
Various different locations for reception sites. There are a few different options for where to have my reception at this vineyard depending on my guest list. They have accommodations for 100-1000 people.
Established relationship with vendors. They list several vendors on their website that they already trust and recommend for catering and rentals.
In-between Lawrenceburg and Lexington in Midway. Conveniently close to Lexington, but a little less of a drive for A’s family coming from out of town.
Great scenery + vineyard. I have my heart (kind of) set on a vineyard wedding ceremony, and it could possibly eliminate the need for a second site, meaning I could do my ceremony and reception at the same venue.
So me & A have been attempting to set a date for a couple of days now, and we think we may have decided on one (subject to family approval of course).
When I thought about when I wanted to get married, I had a few things on my list:
good weather for outdoor ceremony (smaller chance of rain/snow especially)
Summer-Fall (I kind of despise Spring weddings, and no thanks for Winter)
no major holidays/birthdays at the same time
After getting what he wanted out of it (which was roughly the same thing, thankfully), we started looking at the calendar. While at first I believed that October or November might be a good choice, 5 out of our 6 parents (gotta love divorce and step-parents) are born in those months. August is most likely going to be a dreadfully hot month, and July has the added bonus of a lot of holidays, birthdays, and hot weather. So it seemed that we were left with the month of September.
In 2012, Labor Day falls on 9/3, so we decided that we wouldn’t have our wedding day on that weekend. In addition, we figured that nobody would be in the mood for traveling the following weekend and kicked 9/8 off the list as well. This left 9/15, 9/22, and 9/29. Since getting too far in the semester will present possibilities for not being able to come home from college, kids having tests in school, etc, I thought that the earlier in the month, the better. After all, A’s family has a ton of teachers in the mix, and mine has plenty of children.
The end result is that our tentative date for our wedding is September 15, 2012. It’s been approved by A’s mom and my dad, so for now it’s looking like it will stick.
As I plugged it into theKnot earlier today, I felt pretty good about my decision. After all, it’s pretty hard to plan anything without a date. Now I can actually start looking at vendors and discussing prices with a real plan in mind.
I read something on theKnot that said that before you do anything, you should make out your guest list. A good theory, in my opinion, because before you can do anything, you have to know how many people are possibly going to be there.
Me & Andrew decided to start making out our guest list with family only at first. As we started making out the list, my heart sank further and further into my stomach. With family alone, even without counting kids and simply tacking them on as +amount of kids to their parents, we have around 100 people on the list. And these are the “immediate family” lists, which don’t include my stepmother or stepfather’s families, or Andrew’s SIL’s family who are like family to him.
Now, I’m well-aware that of those currently on the list, some of them will flat out not come due to the cost of travel (which I will not be attempting to pay/worry about/listen to 30 minute phone calls about) and others probably will not come because of whatever reason/time conflict/etc. What I am extremely worried about is that I will have to plan around this raw number and it won’t be accurate because I won’t get the appropriate notification.
I like the colors red and blue, but not in the patriotic way. I like a metallic pale blue, similar to the color in this dress:
When it comes to red, I like a bright cherry red such as:
If you put those two colors together and use them in moderation coupled (break it up with black and white quite a bit), then I think it’s possible to get away from a Fourth of July look, it’s all about how you use it.
I also really like a wine color, so we will see.
I’m pretty much sold on the girls wearing shorter dresses. I can’t see anyone wanting to wear a floor-length dress at a reception. I don’t even know if I want to wear a full-length wedding dress!
Alright I figured since I’m sitting around not doing anything at home (I should be studying for a final but screw that) today would be a good idea to do some research on available venues for a reception around Lexington. I am planning on looking at one venue every Tuesday for the next few months so that I am exhausting my options.
I am willing to pay up to $1000 for the venue and $1500 for catering, but that’s it - so I am looking at around $12-15 a person on menus. Catering budget may factor in along with the venue, since a lot of them have their own catering at the facility.
This venue has several different choices for room accommodations, and it would also be relatively close to the interstate for our family traveling from out of town. They also can do their own catering (in the $20’s/pp though) or you can pay $100 to use outside catering. The option I am most looking at is their Lounge area combined with the Runway. It can hold up to 200 guests, and the Runway area is a nice place to set up for camera crew, event staff, extra space, etc. It would be $700 for those combined, or $600 for the Lounge area alone. Decorations would be done by us. They offer their own bartender and alcohol and can do either open, combination, or cash bar (deposit/charge to be determined). Free parking next to area. Also they would have to rent linens from an outside company.
The other option is the Holding Area at $500, seats 500 people. I don’t really think I need that much space, but it would be nice. It’s also apparently less formal than the Lounge, but that might be a good thing for my DIY decorations.
Overall I think that this venue is worth looking into further.
“I read once that the ancient Egyptians had fifty words for sand & the Eskimos had a hundred words for snow. I wish I had a thousand words for love, but all that comes to mind is the way you move against me while you sleep & there are no words for that.”—